The Ideal Muslimah v.5
Today’s sharing comes from the chapter: The Muslim Woman and Her Community/Society
She is wise and eloquent on her da’wah
The Muslim woman who seeks to call others to Allah is eloquent and clever in her da’wah, speaking wisely and without being pushy to those whom she calls, and taking into account their intellectual levels and social positions. With this wise and good preaching (invitation), she is able to reach their hearts and minds, just as the Qur’an advises:
“Invite (all) to the Way of your Lord with wisdom and fair preaching..” (16:125)
The sister who is calling others is careful not to be long-winded or boring, and she avoids over-burdening her audience. She does not speak for too long, or discuss matters that are difficult to understand. She introduces the idea that she wants to convey in a brief and clear fashion, using attractive and interesting methods, and presenting the information in stages, so that her audience will understand it easily and will be eager to put their new knowledge into practice.
This is what the Prophet SAW used to do in his own preaching, as the great Sahaabi Abdullah Ibn Mas’ood RA tells us. He (Ibn Mas’ood) used to preach a little at a time to the people, every Thursday. A man said to him, “I wish that you would teach us every day.” He said, “What prevents me from doing so is the fact that I would hate to bore you. I show consideration towards you by choosing a suitable time to teach you, just as the Prophet SAW used to do with us, for fear of making us bored.”
A characteristic of the successful daa’iyah, and one of the most attractive and influential methods she can use, is that she does not directly confront wrongdoers with their deeds, or those who are failing with their shortcomings. Rather she is gentle in her approach when she addresses them, hinting at their wrongdoing or shortcomings indirectly rather than stating them bluntly, and asking them, gently and wisely, to rid themselves of whatever bad deeds or failings they have. She is careful not to hurt their feelings or put them off her da’wah. This wise, gentle approach is more effective in treating social ills and moral and psychological complaints, and it is the method followed by the Prophet SAW, as Aa’ishah RA said:
“When the Prophet heard that someone had done something wrong, he did not say ‘What is wrong with so-and-so that he says (such-and-such)?’ Rather, he would say, ‘What is wrong with some people that they say such-and-such?…”
(Hayaat as-Sahabah 3/129)
From the book The Ideal Muslimah by Muhammad Ali al-Hashimi.