The Ideal Muslimah v.3
Taken from the chapter “The Muslim Woman and Her Own Self” from the book, The Ideal Muslimah by Muhammad Ali al-Hashimi.
She does not go to extremes of beautification or make a wanton display of herself
Paying attention to one’s appearance should not make a Muslim woman fall into the trap of wanton display (tabarruj) and showing her beauty to anyone other than her husband and mahram relatives. She should not upset the balance which is the basis of all Islamic teachings, for the Muslim woman always aims at moderation in all things, and is on the alert to prevent any one aspect of her life from taking over at the expense of another.
She never forgets that Islam, which encourages her to look attractive within the permitted limits, is also the religion that warns her against going to such extremes that she becomes a slave to her appearance, as the hadith says:
“Wretched is the slave of the dinaar, dirham and fancy clothes of velvet & silk! If he is given, he is pleased, and if he is not given, he is displeased.”
– Fath al-Baari, 6/81, Kitab al-Jihaad, baab al-hiraasah fil-ghazw fi sabeel-Allah
Our women today, many of whom have been influenced by the international fashion houses to such an extent that a rich woman will not wear an outfit more than once, have fallen into that slavery of which the Prophet SAW warned and, as a result, they are trapped in the misery of that senseless enslavement to excessively luxurious clothing & accessories. Such women have deviated from the purpose for which mankind was created in this world.
One of the worst excesses that many modern Muslim women have fallen into is the habit of showing off expensive outfits at a wedding parties, which have become fashion shows where competition is rife and is taken to extremes far beyond the realms of common sense and moderation. This phenomenon becomes clearest when the bride herself wears all her outfits, which may number as many as ten, one after the other: each time she changes, she comes out and shows it off to the other women present, exactly like the fashion models in the West. It does not even occur to the women among whom this habit is common, that there may be women present who are financially unable to buy such outfits.
No doubt the Muslim woman who has surrounded herself with the teachings of this great religion is spared and protected from such foolish errors, because she has adopted its principles of moderation.